first guess is the switch but it feels normal, have to pull the fuses to shut lights off ?

 

One way to check this is to remove the headlight sw and unplug the plug from the sw and see what happens. If lights go out=sw , if not now need to look further

 

pulled the switch lights are still on

 

I am not clear on your reply. Did you remove the switch and unplug the plug from the switch?

 

sorry ,, switch completely unplugged

 

I believe your vehicle had/has Daytime Running Lights, is this so ?

 

yes it does , it has auto driving lights, but you can turn off with the light switch .

 

There are 2 relays that are involved with your vehicle's Daytime running lights, The first chance I get I will try to layout where they are.

At this point it could be a problem with the smart stick (sig lt sw) or the relays.

 

so i swapped the relays around , all 3 have the same part # , didnt help much, but there is a gray module clipped to the access panel
when i unplug it lights will go out , #

Module CBX YL3T-14A597-AA

 

Evidently, the problem is within that module.